This is the first official post on my personal website! I have several websites and have decided to shut a couple down and transfer many of the articles to other websites, including this one. Here, I discuss general topics that are of use to everyone. With that, I start with an article I wrote a few years ago...
It's no secret that I live what some call a "religious" lifestyle. But, it's not in the way that society defines it. When you have a spiritual awakening and things in your life begin to drastically change for the better, that's something to pay attention to. It means that something is working! I come from a spiritual, not religious perspective. Religion puts boundaries on how to function. God isn't like that because as the Divine Creator of the universe, He's thinks bigger than we do.
A scripture that most in religious communities know is Proverbs 18:21. It states that life and death are in the power of the tongue. The tongue functions like a small rudder on a ship that controls the entire ship (James 3:5). It's yet another scripture that basically says the same thing. What comes out of the mouth creates how we live our lives - past, present, and future. To understand a bit more how that works, check out my article titled Thoughts, Intents, Action! on the Healing Frequencies Music website. Thoughts float through our mind. They "frame" an intent, complete with full architectural plans. From those "plans," some sort of action is born. Actions usually start with words. If we don't make sure our brain is engaged before putting our mouth in gear, we're gonna have some issues.
If you've paid attention to recent scientific studies, the "behavioral arts" disciplines are now saying the same thing. What we think, we do. It affects the spirit, soul, and body.
Basically, if you're a negative Nancy (or Karen is the current name being used), your life might be pretty miserable. When nastiness comes out of our mouths, it's a clue as to what's coming from the heart. You know that saying... out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks?
This is where the open-mouth-insert-foot syndrome comes into play. I guess if you don't like how your life is going, now is a good time to assess your thoughts that then lead to words that cause destruction.
It seems to be "politically correct" these days to make fun of others we disagree with. When views are completely opposite of our perceived perception of a thing, we consider the counter belief wrong. Therefore, that provides the needed ingredient to cancel an individual. How do we know that we're not the one with the problem? If we don't know the answer, it's time to look within ourselves. If someone aims nastiness at us and we respond with a negative trigger, we cause an additional problem because of a negative reaction. Some might argue with me on that point but remember - our reactions are based on both good and bad life experiences. Our reactions become second-nature because we've practiced them throughout life. As we learn to react from a position of love, we react with fewer negative triggers to the nastiness around us.
With compassion for others, we can release comfort, hope, love, peace, etc. over them. It's in our best interest to respond in an opposite spirit to the negative junk. Some days, I do better than others. It's a process that requires patience, perseverance, and practice. Remember that perfect love casts out all fear. When we release love, it keeps the negativity at bay. Yes, it might still affect those sending "nastigrams" aimed at us. But we don't have to receive that nastiness because we've chosen to function from the opposite spirit which negates the poisonous arrow aimed our direction.
NEWSFLASH!!! It won't necessarily change a circumstance because people who CHOOSE to be negative will only change once their heart focuses on living from a place of gratitude instead of anger, frustration, offense or any of their negative cuddle buddies. Our job is to not come into agreement with verbal vomiting spewed our direction. Agreement with negativity equals acceptance and ownership. Trust me... that's how I spent nearly 20 years of my life sick. I came into agreement with lies that were spoken over me. If you want to read how that worked out for me, check out But Words Will Never Hurt Me. NOTE: If you're in an abusive relationship, you'll need to be at a place where you're ready to leave the relationship before reading the book.
Things might actually appear to get worse for a season when you're practicing "renewing the mind." In science terms, it called a paradigm shift. As we learn to stay in a place or rest and peace, poisonous verbal arrows affect us less and less.
It's been interesting watching many public figures find ways to be offended over things. I've never seen anything quite like it. The key is to watch our words and actions so that we do not become the problem. Just because someone else verbally vomits on you, doesn't mean that you have to reciprocate the offer. What a stinky mess to clean up!
Look at the giant mouth in this picture! I reminds me of what my dad used to say to me "open mouth - insert foot." I mentioned this earlier so just imagine that foot inside this mouth.
My dad's "zinger" was the first time I'd heard that phrase and it's stuck with me my entire life. My dad is a very wise man. I was a motor mouth as a child and can still be that way if I don't watch it. His thing was to not say something that you might regret later. We don't realize that our words can come back to bite us. I ask the question... if you're struggling with life stuff right now, have you considered what's coming out of your mouth?
How do we deal with the venom of cancel culture? Let's just call it for what it is... nasty, ugly, and vile language. I don't care how much of a horrible person someone is, we can find better ways of dealing with our frustration than hurling "nastigram" language towards him/her. This type of negative behavior causes people to do some pretty stupid stuff (death threats, calling for someone to be "taken out," etc.) Maybe people feel safer spewing nastiness because they are hiding behind the facade of a funky-named profile on social media? Or, they are with people who agree with them and their rhetoric which is where the "monkey see - monkey do" attitude comes into play. You know, it's that "pack mentality" thing. My dad used to also tell me, "If you can't say it to someone's face, don't say it at all." Hmmm.... more wise fatherly words.
How do we get rid of cancel culture? We learn to operate in the opposite spirit. Since perfect love casts out all fear and nearly every negative action and reaction is rooted in fear, we must trust that the stronger frequencies of love will eventually override the negative. With each wave of love we send, the more power packed the wave becomes. However, this doesn't mean we allow others to step all over us. I do believe it's possible to aim "love bombs" at those who choose to engage in cancel culture. How can we do that? Change your thoughts, intentions, and actions to align with love as a starting point. Then, the love that's in us can be relased to others.
Cancel Culture vs Verbal Abuse? To me, they are synonymous. You can't "cancel" someone without being abusive - verbally, emotionally, and/or spiritually. "Abusive behavior" is anything that defames another person. Defaming is attacking the character, wrongdoings, or anything we don't like about that person. Just because someone does something stupid we may not like, doesn't mean we have to verbally abuse them. Trust me... I lived with it for several years and it's not fun. If you want to read more about that, check my writings on the Free From Verbal Abuse website. Honestly, I have zero tolerance for mean spirited behavior towards others, even if I agree with what the person is saying. There's ALWAYS a more mature and adult manner in which to handle our differences. Let's try to "adult" a bit more?
Plain and simple, I don't believe there's ever an excuse to call for violence, destruction, "unaliving people," etc. toward a city, state, nation, or specific leaders. When we behave like this, we're engaging in abusive behaviors which ALWAYS leads to negative outcomes. Unfortunately, today's society seems to think it's OK to act in this manner. Well, if we want the destruction of our society to stop, we must cancel the verbally abusive behavior within "cancel culture" and learn to get along. If we want to stay away from verbal abuse, here are helpful tips I've learned:
- Agree to disagree with people and allow God to work within their hearts (It's not your responsbility to change others)...
- Release Love, joy, and peace over every situation that frustrates you. Then, STAY in peace despite what goes on around you...
- Stay in an attitude of gratitude. Your "positive" energectic frequency that you can CHOOSE to partner with IS what creates lasting change.
Current Trends
There's some pretty weird stuff going on in the world - war, government overreach, censorship of free speech, etc. I've watched as major media outlets go after independent journalists for "misinformation" among a myriad of other things. It's a bit difficult finding truth in many stories because key information is often left out. There are politicians we love to hate. We're polarized by varying political views and can't tolerate another view beyond our own. This is breeding grounds for cancel culture, which our children see, then act out. Then, we wonder why our children have issues? Monkey see - monkey do!
How can we combat hate and negativity? First off, we believe we must speak out, although silence with our lips is probably a good thing when we're frustrated. When I have nothing that needs to be said, I release frequencies (love, peace, joy, comfort, etc.) that are intended to override negativity. When people come at me with their verbal vomit, I try to find a way to deescalate the situation. Sometimes, that's with conversation. Other times, it's "being" love around those people. First off, you can't change a mind that's already made up. Why waste words with those people? Through listening with our heart, we can learn when to say something and when to shut up.
Story Time!
A few summers ago, there was a huge fight across the street with a drunk guy who was mad at another neighbor (who was not drunk). People began to gather, cheering for the drunk guy while hurling insults at the other. The drunk guy started the fight with his insults.
I actually got in the middle of it and helped calm the situation down by encouraging the one being verbally abused to be the grown up and back off. The "cheering section" further down the street didn't appreciate my actions. Normally, I would NOT recommend getting in the middle of a drunken brawl but I knew in my gut something would go seriously wrong if I didn't.
Eventually, I yelled down the street for the cheering section to shut up because they weren't helping. After it was all over, I went to those who observed the fight and listened to one guy spew anger all over me because I yelled "shut up" at them. Without missing a beat, I apologized. He didn't know what to do with that and said nothing more. I then grabbed some worship flags and began to wave them in the street as I released frequencies of peace and comfort over the neighborhood. There are a few other things I continued to do but since that date, there have been no more issues. The "party central" house has remained relatively quiet other than the time they had their lawnmower too close to the fire (during another night of heavy drinking) and the lawnmower exploded. Can you say, KABOOM!!! Sure, I knew you could. To this date, I have yet to meet a smart drunk person. Hmmm....
How can we change a culture of nastiness? In recent national situations, I started releasing certain frequencies (via words) over events centered around specific "causes." It seems redundant at times but as I watch live streams, I grab a drum and while playing, I speak out the words I feel led to release. I see them as waves of energy that gather more steam every time I play. I see those frequencies released into the drum that then go through the various live streams. For example, I release unity, peace, hope, restoration, breakthrough, etc. This is called entrainment which goes directly into the live streams as a creative process to bring about change.
Change starts with us. Mother Theresa said that change comes "one person at a time." When we see people engaging in verbal abuse, it's possible to call them on that behavior in a loving manner. They expect a specific reaction but when something unexpected comes at them, it can literally stymie them, as you read in the example above. We are living in a world that needs to understand the unconditional love of our Divine Creator. I add peace, hope, restoration, breakthrough, truth, justice, and a myriad of other good things into the mix as well. We start small, then keep at it until more are affected by Perfect Love (God's Love).
NEWSFLASH!!! When we stop functioning from personal pain (or entititlement) and understand that we are each unique individuals, we can allow the "nastigram arrows" aimed at us to be countered with perfect and unconditional love that can only come from our Divine Creator. We no longer respond through our pain, low self-esteem, or a myriad of other things that hold us captive. We can BE love to those around us. We create change one person and one situation at a time. Start small. As we learn to to govern the small things, we're given more responsibility.
How can you cancel "cancel culture? Begin today by releasing perfect love to your family, your neighborhood, your city, your region, then your country. You may not think it will do much but take a moment and realize what happens when you put a drop of sewage into a glass of water. Would you drink it? NO! Why? Because that one drop of sewage has contaminated the entire glass of water. Spreading love instead of hate works the same way... you release Love one drop at a time.
I visualize releasing love, hope, truth, joy, and peace "bombs" over situations and regions. And, I keep at it continually until I feel a release to stop. Each "wave" of love has more energy than the previous wave. It's not a quick fix so don't expect immediate results. Keep at it!!! This is truly the only way to rid ourselves of cancel culture and all its nasty cuddle buddies.
Love rules and fear drools!
Del